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Nurturing the success of your children as well as yourself

Now I’m no expert in parenting but going to an event that I was already hesitant to go to but for some reason decided to stop in got me thinking really hard… I mean some real food for thought.

The event was in honour of people of colour for Black history month a friend of mine had invited me and so I thought I don’t think I’ve ever really honoured my blackness in public with other people of colour so why not go. The speaker was someone very influential. So I guess I wanted to hear how this woman got to where she was today all while being a mother. When the question was finally raised about motherhood and how she had navigated through all of her rise to success all while being a single mom her response was this, “it was all a blur” which would explain a lot.

You see I don’t know this speaker personally but I do know of her daughter and I know that in someways her Mother’s success affected her In many ways then one and that’s what got me thinking…. even though she is very successful in her career the parenting piece was all a blur. What I’m saying is I don’t want my parenting and my time with my kids to be a blur because I was so driven towards my own success. We can find success in so many different things we can find success in the big things as well as the little things and sometimes the success that we do find is really those happy times and those connected moments with the ones we love.

Even as women of colour there is always this hardness behind us that’s more along the lines of ‘suck it up butter cup’, as oppose to the gentle nurturer. I can attest by my own mother and how she navigated through her career and being a Mom. Now that I’m a Mom, I can understand where they were coming from. They were single Moms who were really living in survival mode for themselves and most importantly for their children and so they did what ever they had to, to get to that next level, even if it meant that the kids wouldn’t get the gentle Motherly type.

So the question is how can we as parents nurture our success and our children’s success at the same time?….

These are some of the tools I’ve learned and continue to apply to my life and my family life.

1) in order to nurture the success of your children you first have to find out what they love… as a Mom I have always paid attention to the interest of my kids. My son loves science and nature and so we try and find activities that foster his interests.

My middle one loves gymnastics and is a natural and my little loves music and so I’m slowly moving her in that direction because that’s what she loves. Now of course as a parent I had different plans but when the Universe shows you the joy that comes out of it when they do what they love that my friends is success.

2) prioritize your time as a Mom and as a career driven woman. Sometimes we feel we can only do one but not both. When you’re running your business and trying to get it off the ground, the down time is very limited but that doesn’t mean that you can’t set aside down time for the people you love. Create a schedule that works and remember to add in DOWN TIME!

3) Be self aware… as parents we have a tendency of not being aware of the effects we have on our kids. We can be so focused in the success and the end result that we can sometimes have blinders on forgetting our kids needs which could just be them wanting Mommy time. Make sure we’re spreading the knowledge of where happiness really comes from. Not from the late nights at the office, but from those special moments we have with the people we love.

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Fashion is My Alter Ego

It’s all coming back to me now. That passion to create any outfit depending on my mood. That feeling of expressing yourself without saying a word. I remember my Mom having her motto when it came to shopping for me. “If its ugly then Rashida will love it.” She was right! Although I never though of it as ugly, I just thought of it as different . I’m 5’0, so I always wanted to stand out and given the fact that I grew up in a household that was very scary, I was definitely not stepping out of line. So fashion became my thing. Bright colours and PATTERNS were and still are my thing. I think patterns can really express the inner psyche of a person. Remember our spirits are an array of colours that represent the rainbow, and tell me one person who doesn’t love a rainbow. Tell me!

Even on my bad day an outfit can be the thing that gets me out of my funk. It’s a visual thing for me. If you visually see yourself in the best of light, looking finessed like you have somewhere to go then eventually your mind will switch up! now that doesn’t mean that you always have to dress up , but why not? Like I’ve said before

Adorn Your Temple

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When I put on a fierce outfit, it makes me feel like I’m already in the life that I want. You know that feeling… almost like you’re putting on your superhero cape. When the outfit goes on and every accessory is just right…That’s when the super powers kick in. Super powers of a great outfit?…

Intense confidence, boldness, and most importantly a carefree attitude. I take everyone by storm with my wild  exuberance and efficiency of a BOSS! I have a drive that is focused and unstoppable. All while looking FABULOUS! Even better when the items are on sale…Lol!

So remember that sometimes it’s the visual that gives us the jump start to what we want. It’s our imagination that helps us to believe in the impossible, which was always possible in my opinion. Embrace and inhabit your own style that excites and brightens your spirit. If it feels good to you and feels comfortable on then Rock it!

Affirmation: My style is my superpower 

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Messages from Aunt Flow

It’s a Sunday afternoon and after having a not so great sleep, I woke up to Miss Aunt Flow this morning. Ladies, have you have had this moment where you feel this intense feeling of emotion that connects with you on some deep spiritual level, making you feel that your spiritual posse has some serious important message to divulge to you?… only to realize that it was just your period making you feel all types of ways?…and of course you can never decode the message.  I always feel like some High Priestess ready to spread deep knowledge to the world around that time of the month. Men take note; you can learn a lot from this. LOL!

Anyway now that I’m not all the way in my feelings and my emotions are not all over the place, I figured I would give myself some time to write. The kids are playing quietly with their friends after jumping around a hot ass gym for a bit. I clean a gym part time so that I can continue to live out my passion and see my dreams come true. A lot more work than I anticipated but worth it.

I have made a pack to release old thoughts and habits and replace them with positive encouragements and healthy habits. I’m beginning to realize that I have a duty to this body that I was born into and I want to see it shine in every way possible.

Note to self: Our spirit never wants to see us struggling or out of sorts. Its kind of like even though our bodies and spirits are one with each other, it still has a way of taking us off track every now then just to remind us of how it feels to be a hot mess. Cause we sure know no one out there likes to be a hot mess and misaligned with life.

Good question…. What are ways that you bounce back when you feel out of wack? and are you able to recognize when you are out of wack?

I know when it’s time to realign myself when I become like Tony Montana from Scarface… Just kidding…but I can get irritable when I’m emotionally off. This whole thing of feeling like a hermit has forced me to easily slip in and out of meditation. It feels pretty nice considering that has always been something that’s been hard for me to fully attain.

Higher Self: Meditation is not something that is attainable. It’s just something that always is.

Meaning Silence is always there…. Sometimes meditation can just sit above the surface, because our minds are so active that it actually takes longer for it to completely rest and be still. Leaving us to never fully deepen our conscious experience.

It’s kind of like the eclipse season is bringing us back to our source. The beginning of the beginning. You know what I’m talking about, Atlantis and the planet Sirius? The Mermaids, dragons and avatars?….  There was a time when everything lived in harmonious love. Remember?… If not, I’ll have to leave it for another blog session. It’s Actually one of my favourite memories that helped me to heal in a lot more ways than I even knew it would.

Great news!… I’ve sealed the deal with teaching yoga at the gym, starting in the Fall… Yeah ME!… I’ve also realized my worth and will be charging just a little under the going rate here in Toronto. Looking forward to teaching and generating more income from  what I love to do. Anyway off to take the kids to the park and tire them out hopefully.

FYI: As a parent, my favourite time of the day is bedtime…. LOL!

 

 

Body, Mind & Spirit, life lessons, Uncategorized

Complete Overhaul

Ok guys!….. I’ve been battling with this for some time now and I think…. wait I know that it’s fully time to make a commitment to myself and to my surroundings. I’m talking about the people I am surrounding myself with.

When I moved to my community, I was on the mends from being broken. I was living with my Mother after moving house to house. FYI… There is nothing better than your Mother’s house and love to get you straight again. I had my two kids and had just started to rebuild a relationship with their Dad…. I was definitely still trying to figure it all out. So I guess you could say I was fresh. Fresh meaning new to this whole thing of stepping out of my comfort zone. So it had made sense for me to move into the neighborhood that I’ve called home for the past 9 years. my neighborhood is a place for a lot of new comers and first time home buyers, but its also home to largest housing community who are on assistance. Let’s just say it’s a community in transition.

9 years is a long time, but in those 9 years I grew up in every aspect of my life. Through that growth, I was able to find my voice, set boundaries and heal my spirit in a way that made my ancestors very proud of me. I rewrote history to be the first one in my family to start and own a business. So you can see that living in the hood as some would call it has benefited me. living in housing with all the drama and same victim stories is what makes me work just as hard to get out.

From the moment I moved in here, I knew it was important to surround myself with positive people. Which I did. It is never a mistake when the Universe pairs you with people…. NEVER!!!! Perhaps it was a karmic relationship that needed to be completed or your positive vibes attracted you to one another…. Either way, not a mistake. Every person that I was around led to more growth and understanding of myself and to amazing opportunities. It’s nice to feel and be supported no matter what, and I needed the support as did all the other women I encountered.

Years have passed and even though we keep in touch, we’ve all grown in so many ways that it only makes sense to fly and spread your wings, which is what happened. You know it can sometimes get lonely when you begin to move to your higher self. Once you begin vibrating on another level, you tend to noticed when someone is vibrating lower than you and well then…. You just want to run the other way. So this overhaul thing really has to do with me making a commitment to NOT FUCK with ANYONE who is NOT SERVING their HIGHER PURPOSE. Cause let’s be real, If they aren’t serving their own higher purpose, there is no way they can serve mine.

You know people say you attract what you are….BUT….. I was on IG and someone had posted that it was a myth and the reality is that their are people out their who are constantly running on low vibes and will latch on to those who run on a higher vibe for replenishment. There are just some people who are will always bring the drama or the gossip and there are some who want to always make excuses. Meanwhile  repeating the same bullshit and continue to vibe around the same people they know is no good for them. Well…. I’M OVER IT!….

I’m over it because I’ve heard it all before (in my singing voice.) I’ve heard the same sob stories with little to no change and I’m doing a complete overhaul of who I will  and will not fuck with. How can I get my money right or my career if I’m constantly hanging around people who are not on time for life. Who are still sleep walking. Some would say, ‘ You should be more sensitive to other people’s spiritual growth’ But what people need to realize that if you’re growing internally, you will automatically see results externally. As IG Artist @lonniebee said, ‘I will still fuck with but I wont stay stuck you’….Truth!, but I want to take it a step further because I believe in order to make room for new peeps in your life….others have to fall off….Sending you safe travels.

Even as parents, we need to make sure that who are kids are hanging with. I make it a habit to only hang with parents and family who are not full of drama and outlandish stories, but still looking for solids in my life, if you catch my drift. If you’re questionable, then my kids won’t be going over to play. It would be like sending them into the lions den. What kind of Mom would I be?

Bottom line….. I want to continue to make moves and no longer stand still. That is why I am more determined then ever to accomplish my goals. That and I’m getting to old for it all. Have I truly outgrown my neighborhood?

What ways are you trying to make moves? and do you find yourself outgrowing certain people and things?

It’s Time to Level Up!!

Would love to hear you comments. You can connect with me on righteoussun.co

and yo can also find me on IG under Rightoeussoleil where I post me and all my positive vibes.

Also decided to start a Patreon page under righteoussun so we’ll see where I’ll go with that one. I do want to find ways to connect and help others all around the globe.

So stay tune!

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Follow Up

It’s raining Cats and Dogs out here in Toronto. We needed it… We’ve had an amazing yet summer. Not complaining about it at all… Just means more time at the beach or pool side. It is August. So after taking time to make sense of it all, I realized I still have a lot of love to give back to my inner child. You know ever since completing the Reiki level three to become a Reiki Master. It has been a beautiful and interesting transformation all at the same time. It’s been gradual and quiet, all done behind the scenes but showcased through my actions. Some of it even catching me by surprise. sigh! It still feels like I have long way to go and it all starts and ends with me. Me stepping out of my comfort zone and taking chances and having faith that everything will work out….

I went out of my comfort zone and began selling myself once again. I asked two facilities if there was space available, both sounded like they were on board. I always feel like a little girl asking if she could have a cookie before dinner… always anticipating a no answer but asking anyways. SMH! I guess growing up in a household where there was a lot of physical and verbal abuse, as child the last thing you wanted to do was ask for anything let alone talk back. I did that to keep me safe, because I believed and still do sometimes that no one has your best interest at hand but you, and your spirit knows that or it wouldn’t have protected me my entire life.

I plan on seeing a space today at 7pm and the other gym should be automatically a go…It’s my daughters Gymnastics club. I feel like Kevin Costner in Field of Dreams… “If You build it, They will come.” I am currently teaching kids yoga through the District school board and that’s been working out nicely but I need to get my hustle on if I want to make this my full time. I want to widen my audience and normally when I teach the kids, the parents or the guardian always ask if I teach elsewhere. So I figured why not. If I create the class, surely people will come. I’m giving myself some mental time and not starting until the fall… I feel like that gives me enough time to spread the word. Praying to the Gods that this helps the shift in my career.

What are ways that you’re helping the shift occur in your life? Are you like me and stepping out of your comfort zone in order to achieve results? I would love to hear your thoughts.

If you live in Toronto, Canada and are in the Greater Toronto Area, Keep an eye out for my yoga classes and for the rest, my healing services are always available.

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