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Getting rid of the leftovers

So we’re almost at that midway point Of the year and it’s a full moon today. Called the Flower moon…. A time to assess the last few years of your progress… great job everyone! As well as a time to rid yourself of the last bit of leftovers that have kept you back from being your true self. That means getting rid of the emotional baggage such as the guilt, the resentment, the hurt and the false belief that you’re not good enough. It’s the crap that still wants to hold on tight to our aura because it has nowhere else to go and it’s ver comfortable in the parts of your being where it’s of course making your life miserable.

The Flower moon is all about fertility. That means new beginnings… the blossoming of the new you…. new experiences. No more leftover feelings that no longer serves your purpose.

We all have a tendency to continue go down the same path that always leads to a dead end which means you just have to repeat the same path or situation until you can get pass that particular obstacle or obstacles.

So how can you get rid of the last bit of leftovers?…..

  • Really get down to your feelings and figure out what’s weighing you down. Once you get real with yourself, take the time to write yourself a goodbye letter to the old you. You can take it one step further and burn it (please remember to be safe)
  • Make a list of all the things you’ve ever wanted to do… and get ready to step out of your comfort zone. Coming out of comfort zone allows you to get to know yourself a bit better and how far you can reach in this vast Universe of possibilities.
  • Make sure you’re staying true to who you are… and the only way to do that is to surround yourself with positive vibes. Keep yourself afloat with the feel good flow, you know the things that keep you motivated.

Remember the only way to release is to realize.

Realize your ability for growth and change.

Realize all the work you’ve done to get to this point.

And most importantly… Realize your worth.

You’re definitely worth more than you realize.

Happy Full moon.

Body, Mind & Spirit, Uncategorized

It’s A Commitment

Make a commitment.

To yourself

To the process

To the ups and the downs

A commitment to growth

And transformation


Righteous Sun

I had a conversation with a friend the other day and we got on to the topic of commitment. What does it mean to truly be committed? And is putting a ring on it actually mean that the man is committed to you?

Let’s get into it…. Some women feel that if their significant other puts a ring on it, it means that they are taking the next step to commitment. However, some men feel that if I have kids with you and living with you then I’m committed and you don’t need a ring.

What are your thoughts?

I said commitment means more to me than just a ring on my finger. If you’re that type of person that is into the symbolism of a ring, then putting a ring on it  means that you’re committing to every piece of that person. The good and the stuff we’re still working through…. Now I’m committed to learning about myself and how I interact with my partner. I’m committed to being patient as he grows and transforms as an individual and as a partner. (Because you have to do both in order for any relationship to last.) We have to be committed to change in and outside ourselves because as we know, no one and nothing  stays the same.

Now just because you get a ring, that doesn’t mean the person is fully committed. How do you know if someone is committed?… Real Simple…

They are committed to themselves first and foremost. Now you’re probably thinking, wait! committed to just themselves?… Isn’t that a little selfish?… It’s not when that person is committing to being the best they can be for themselves and for the person they are involved with. That means growing in every possible way for the greater good.

To make a commitment means that you place value on the person you and who you are becoming. To take it one step further, once you realize that there is no separation between who you are and who you are becoming… Well then…. You are on your way, if not already there. Remember we are universal. We are past, present and Future all in one.

So what now?…. We begin by taking  baby steps towards a commitment to yourself and to the whole process. I love using my screensavers on my laptop and phone for inspirational quotes and affirmations. You use your electronics all the time, so you might as well benefit from them in a way that can remind your spirit who they are and why they’re here.

Another tip that can help in the process is to commit to one day a month of pampering yourself. Just for you. I know it’s getting cold outside if you live in the colder climates, so drop the kids off for a play date and spend the day at home… not cleaning but pampering yourself. I love nice hot baths with essential calming oils that will soothe. Light some candles and VOILA! oh yes!… We can’t forget that favourite bottle of wine. Making a commitment to yourself means that you have to be consistent. So never say that you don’t have time for you… You should always have time for you! The Universe made a commitment to you the day you were born and that my friends is a commitment that will last a lifetime!


Body, Mind & Spirit, life lessons, Uncategorized

Self care shouldn’t be a chore

I am about 85% better from the cold that knocked me out a few days ago and  of course was met with some challenges along the way to health. I am loving the summer weather in the fall but a bit hard to enjoy  it when you’re running a fever and still on Mommy duties. You would think vitamin D would do me some good but it really only made me light headed, especially when taking the dog for a walk or any activity for that matter. Its amazing how something so good for you isn’t always good for you in that particular moment. It’s like the Universe has been asking me to fall back and be reclusive like a hermit. Shade is currently my new best friend. Funny right?…

With all this free time being sick, it only gave me more time to rest and restore but most of all listen. Listen to what the Universe had to say to me. Do you ever feel like a completely brand new person after getting over a cold?, like a caterpillar changing into a butterfly. With all the stress and not feeling well and a whole wack of other goodies, I have honestly felt like things will get better from here.

Note: listen to the words that come out of your mouth when you talk. It is a clear reflection of where you are in your life currently.

I just realized that rather than me writing, “Things can get better”, which means there is the possibility of things getting better, I wrote’ “Things WILL get better.” Which is a declaration to the Universe and yourself.

Anyway, all this time got me thinking how I got to this point. Not like it matters, cause a cold is a cold. But it matters in the sense that I can learn something from myself of how to better protect myself when it comes to my cup being half empty and refilling it back up in healthy ways.

After having my kids and jumping full fledge into being a stay ay Mom, I just felt like I was ready and able to give them all of me. I had made a conscious effort to put ME aside and focus on them. What I thought was a good idea at the time, eventually turned into me feeling very drained and tired. I wasn’t really taking care of myself in the best way possible. Devoting my entire life to the kids and  neglecting myself wasn’t at all my intentions but I continued with the thought that, ” I had my fun in the past and it was all for the them now”. It was only when I had hit a point of not wanting to look at myself in the mirror and beginning to feel low self esteem that I realized, enough was enough. I had an epiphany and felt like it was time to reclaim a piece of me.

When you look good, you’ll feel good. It’s a visual thing that gets the ball rolling to self love. Before having kids, I…. without fail would go and get a manicure every two weeks and my hair done once a month. I enjoyed every minute of it. I would always get funky designs and colours, it totally represented my spirit and life at the time, Wild and Free. They knew me there and it was always a treat. With my hair….. Well, I’ve been getting my hair done ever since I could talk and use the washroom on my own. And whether I liked it or not, My hair was getting done. So it became a habit and a way of life for any female of colour. I never really saw hair as being a self care regimen.

It was only when I had benched myself from life that I realized those things weren’t just treats and habits but were also essential to my sanity as a Mother and a human being.

Did you know you can tell a lot from a persons hair and scalp? You can find out what vitamins and nutrients a person is missing just by looking at their hair. Amazing! As soon as I declared it to my partner and the Universe that Mommy was taking back her life and consciously making an effort to make time for herself and selfcare. I found a hairdresser in the neighborhood who I am now great friends to help me along the way. I can’t lie though…. I was doing so well with the upkeep. It was like a year and a half of “All about ME!” and then… Well I’m not really sure what happened but my self care regimen wasn’t at all what it used to be. I wasn’t always getting my nails done and I began to try and squeeze an my appointment  whenever and wherever I could. I thought it got easier when the kids got older… It didn’t. LOL!

Before I knew it, my self care regimen became a chore. My 2 hour Mommy time of getting my nails done was no longer fun. I would look at the time constantly wondering when I would be done so I could go back to my job of being a Mom and working in my small business. I began fitting it into my busy schedule rather than make time for it. I can now look back and know that there was a moment when I stopped feeling relaxed about taking care of myself. I stopped feeling relaxed while getting my hair done. It became more of a hurry up type of feeling or a feeling of dread that I had to take time out of my busy schedule to make myself look proper. (Just went British for a moment.)

Note to self: Self care should never feel like a chore and should be a lifestyle.

I’m learning that to truly self care is to be present in the moment. To enjoy every moment of it down to each breath. So that you never miss a beat. Of course selfcare began to feel like a chore for me… I wasn’t even present in any of my activities and was looking at it as negative thing rather than a positive one. I was literally fitting it in like it was a job. Fast forward to my epiphany after getting sick… and perhaps the reason behind me getting sick. Well that and Germs. Lol!

I want to be in a space of complete presence. I want everyday to feel like a spa day, I know that it can’t but what I do know is, in that moment when my cup is beginning to feel a bit empty that I will consciously know when to self care and be present in that moment of love for myself because… Well…. I deserve it. I deserved it before and I still deserve it now, more than ever before.


Keeping the Faith

So as we know this year for the Chinese new year calendar is the year of the rooster. Yeah me!🎉🎉 I was born in the year of the rooster so I kind of feel like this is my moment to shine this is my moment to spread the knowledge that has been tucked away for so long but every now and then I just lose the faith I personally lose faith in myself and my ability to to succeed. If I’m being honest. So the other night we as a family are hanging out in the living room doing our norm and we go into talking about which year we were born in the Chinese new year calendar so we come to the conclusion that my son is the year of the dog makes sense he’s very loyal my second daughter is the year of the ox she is very stubborn LOL! and my third daughter is the year of the Dragon she is very fiery. My partner is the year of the monkey he can sometimes be mischievous and of course I’m the year of the rooster which it clearly states… ‘Passive when it comes to projects.’ My  partner looks at me and says agree!!!.  I would also agree with that statement. As a Mom, I make excuses for myself. Deep down there’s moments when I think I am a mom of three children and they are my first priority so I always believe that before I can settle I need them to be settled. So I do everything in my power to try and make sure that they are settled and in the end of course they’re not always settled because their kids… the only time the are settled are when they’re sleeping. so I always say to myself it’s OK I’m just gonna push it to the side, or that can wait they are more important. Truthfully  I’m still learning how to come out of my comfort zone to…. find a way to channel this energy internally and bring it forth externally. I have come so far but it took a lot of work a lot of literally self analyzing in those not so happy moments right before my full moon cycle I would analyze every piece of my consciousness. I would meditate religiously and just watch the lights go by in my head. I would feel energy that made me feel so warm and connected inside. 

If I am passive when it comes to projects it is because I never want to limit myself in one particular area of life and I don’t think you should. With every book that I read and with everything that I’ve heard, they say the universe is limitless. So why should I limit myself to one genre why should I put myself in one box . Why should you place yourself in one box. I’m not One box and neither are any of you. We all come from different backgrounds. It’s just that society has placed all of these boxes out there and says pick one says pick one and I say I want all of them why not?… where is the rulebook that says you must choose a box and be in that box for the rest of your life. That is crazy! I’ve been a stay at home mom for the last 10 years. the entire time, internally doing self realization but society says that in order for you to live in this world you need to have the resources and the finances to make that happen and to be happy and to achieve what society says is the norm. A house, two cars and a white white Pickett  fence…. 

I am a part time card reader and a spiritual healer and so the other day I obviously Pulled cards for myself for guidance and it says to write. it’s actually said that a couple times before. Writing helps to express those thought that are tucked away in the closet. And if you don’t resolve it, it will come back out to let you know it’s still there and thinking about you. So then I start to write again and then I stop. the punctuation, the grammar….I can’t lie, it’s  not really my thing but being able to listen and to give advice in a consciously loving way has always been my strong suit and so in the end I just want to help people discover themselves the way that I have but in their own unique way. 

The only thing that I have stayed consistent with is me even though I fall off and feel down about myself or I come to this crazy epiphany as to the next direction. even  though it might sound crazy I always come back to me I always come back on track. And we all do that… we all fall off and go a different direction. I think that’s important because it lets you know what direction feels good. I can’t just always be One Direction… (side note) I still love that band and you see…even they chose to go separate ways at the end of it all . They chose a direction that felt good with at the time. but then it wasn’t fun anymore….and now look!..I love Zayn!😜

I can’t lie it does feel good to get everything off of my chest. when I write I completely forget what I had already written… I leave it in the past but I want to make sure that it’s written down somewhere so that somebody else who feels unworthy, somebody else who feels sad that day will hopefully come across my writings and it in someway impacts them in a way that makes them love them self a little more so I have to keep writing. I think I save this in almost every one of my blogs that I just have to stick with it and write I guess that means that I have to just stick with ME and have the faith in myself that I will help others achieve self love

I don’t want to use excuses anymore to cover up my fear of failure or my fear of what people might Think or say but in the end who really cares. all that matters is YOU!! and what you think of yourself. That is the most important. I know there are people out there that might feel like the direction you might be going might not be best suited for you but if it feels right inside and if it makes your heart feel good then please listen to it and please keep the faith that the Universe is guiding you in the right direction even if it might sound crazy even even if it might seem slow just be patient and keep the faith. The Universe would never guide you in the wrong direction it’s just that we’re not listening.  when we take the time to listen and and we ask…. ‘ please guide me to the next step’ Universe will answer. I’ve tried it it works!!!….we will always have our moments we will always have people telling us what we should do with our lives which can makes us question ourselves a little bit… but remember The Universe  has our back and all the Universe is asking from us is to keep the faith!! so that is what I will do! 🎤Cause you gotta have faith!🎤🎤