Fashion, life lessons, Uncategorized

Fashion is My Alter Ego

It’s all coming back to me now. That passion to create any outfit depending on my mood. That feeling of expressing yourself without saying a word. I remember my Mom having her motto when it came to shopping for me. “If its ugly then Rashida will love it.” She was right! Although I never though of it as ugly, I just thought of it as different . I’m 5’0, so I always wanted to stand out and given the fact that I grew up in a household that was very scary, I was definitely not stepping out of line. So fashion became my thing. Bright colours and PATTERNS were and still are my thing. I think patterns can really express the inner psyche of a person. Remember our spirits are an array of colours that represent the rainbow, and tell me one person who doesn’t love a rainbow. Tell me!

Even on my bad day an outfit can be the thing that gets me out of my funk. It’s a visual thing for me. If you visually see yourself in the best of light, looking finessed like you have somewhere to go then eventually your mind will switch up! now that doesn’t mean that you always have to dress up , but why not? Like I’ve said before

Adorn Your Temple

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When I put on a fierce outfit, it makes me feel like I’m already in the life that I want. You know that feeling… almost like you’re putting on your superhero cape. When the outfit goes on and every accessory is just right…That’s when the super powers kick in. Super powers of a great outfit?…

Intense confidence, boldness, and most importantly a carefree attitude. I take everyone by storm with my wild  exuberance and efficiency of a BOSS! I have a drive that is focused and unstoppable. All while looking FABULOUS! Even better when the items are on sale…Lol!

So remember that sometimes it’s the visual that gives us the jump start to what we want. It’s our imagination that helps us to believe in the impossible, which was always possible in my opinion. Embrace and inhabit your own style that excites and brightens your spirit. If it feels good to you and feels comfortable on then Rock it!

Affirmation: My style is my superpower 

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Body, Mind & Spirit, life lessons, Uncategorized

Self care shouldn’t be a chore

I am about 85% better from the cold that knocked me out a few days ago and  of course was met with some challenges along the way to health. I am loving the summer weather in the fall but a bit hard to enjoy  it when you’re running a fever and still on Mommy duties. You would think vitamin D would do me some good but it really only made me light headed, especially when taking the dog for a walk or any activity for that matter. Its amazing how something so good for you isn’t always good for you in that particular moment. It’s like the Universe has been asking me to fall back and be reclusive like a hermit. Shade is currently my new best friend. Funny right?…

With all this free time being sick, it only gave me more time to rest and restore but most of all listen. Listen to what the Universe had to say to me. Do you ever feel like a completely brand new person after getting over a cold?, like a caterpillar changing into a butterfly. With all the stress and not feeling well and a whole wack of other goodies, I have honestly felt like things will get better from here.

Note: listen to the words that come out of your mouth when you talk. It is a clear reflection of where you are in your life currently.

I just realized that rather than me writing, “Things can get better”, which means there is the possibility of things getting better, I wrote’ “Things WILL get better.” Which is a declaration to the Universe and yourself.

Anyway, all this time got me thinking how I got to this point. Not like it matters, cause a cold is a cold. But it matters in the sense that I can learn something from myself of how to better protect myself when it comes to my cup being half empty and refilling it back up in healthy ways.

After having my kids and jumping full fledge into being a stay ay Mom, I just felt like I was ready and able to give them all of me. I had made a conscious effort to put ME aside and focus on them. What I thought was a good idea at the time, eventually turned into me feeling very drained and tired. I wasn’t really taking care of myself in the best way possible. Devoting my entire life to the kids and  neglecting myself wasn’t at all my intentions but I continued with the thought that, ” I had my fun in the past and it was all for the them now”. It was only when I had hit a point of not wanting to look at myself in the mirror and beginning to feel low self esteem that I realized, enough was enough. I had an epiphany and felt like it was time to reclaim a piece of me.

When you look good, you’ll feel good. It’s a visual thing that gets the ball rolling to self love. Before having kids, I…. without fail would go and get a manicure every two weeks and my hair done once a month. I enjoyed every minute of it. I would always get funky designs and colours, it totally represented my spirit and life at the time, Wild and Free. They knew me there and it was always a treat. With my hair….. Well, I’ve been getting my hair done ever since I could talk and use the washroom on my own. And whether I liked it or not, My hair was getting done. So it became a habit and a way of life for any female of colour. I never really saw hair as being a self care regimen.

It was only when I had benched myself from life that I realized those things weren’t just treats and habits but were also essential to my sanity as a Mother and a human being.

Did you know you can tell a lot from a persons hair and scalp? You can find out what vitamins and nutrients a person is missing just by looking at their hair. Amazing! As soon as I declared it to my partner and the Universe that Mommy was taking back her life and consciously making an effort to make time for herself and selfcare. I found a hairdresser in the neighborhood who I am now great friends to help me along the way. I can’t lie though…. I was doing so well with the upkeep. It was like a year and a half of “All about ME!” and then… Well I’m not really sure what happened but my self care regimen wasn’t at all what it used to be. I wasn’t always getting my nails done and I began to try and squeeze an my appointment  whenever and wherever I could. I thought it got easier when the kids got older… It didn’t. LOL!

Before I knew it, my self care regimen became a chore. My 2 hour Mommy time of getting my nails done was no longer fun. I would look at the time constantly wondering when I would be done so I could go back to my job of being a Mom and working in my small business. I began fitting it into my busy schedule rather than make time for it. I can now look back and know that there was a moment when I stopped feeling relaxed about taking care of myself. I stopped feeling relaxed while getting my hair done. It became more of a hurry up type of feeling or a feeling of dread that I had to take time out of my busy schedule to make myself look proper. (Just went British for a moment.)

Note to self: Self care should never feel like a chore and should be a lifestyle.

I’m learning that to truly self care is to be present in the moment. To enjoy every moment of it down to each breath. So that you never miss a beat. Of course selfcare began to feel like a chore for me… I wasn’t even present in any of my activities and was looking at it as negative thing rather than a positive one. I was literally fitting it in like it was a job. Fast forward to my epiphany after getting sick… and perhaps the reason behind me getting sick. Well that and Germs. Lol!

I want to be in a space of complete presence. I want everyday to feel like a spa day, I know that it can’t but what I do know is, in that moment when my cup is beginning to feel a bit empty that I will consciously know when to self care and be present in that moment of love for myself because… Well…. I deserve it. I deserved it before and I still deserve it now, more than ever before.

Friendship, growth, life lessons, Messages from the Heart, Uncategorized

The Hermit

If you have been following me, you would know that on e of my major complaint is not having enough positive peeps in my life. You know the ones that I’m talking about. that Best Friend kind of peep. Now I’m not all about having to many people at my table, as it is by invite only, my friends list is pretty small. I believe that too many friends can cause confusion and delay. If you’re a parent, you know what I mean. (Thomas the Train movement on this page today).

As a kid I wanted to have as many friends as possible, so much so that I couldn’t see between those who had my best interest at hand and those who didn’t. I carried that unwavering feeling of trying to fit in all the way to adulthood. Having kids changed that right away for me. I became a hermit. I think I always I’ve always enjoyed my own company really. I talk to myself and I answer back. I am truly my own best friend. I take my own pics to…..LOL! Sometimes it can be lonely as fuck though. No one to really laugh at your jokes or sing with you in that moment when its needed. No one to come over and have a girls night with….. I do get along with women, I promise.  Sigh!

Maybe its for the best….. Not having a lot of girlfriends and all. It just makes things messy. right? For some reason we get jealous way to easy and God forbid we find a man, well that best friend will be M.I.A. until further notice. We become Moms and go M.I.A. Here’s a thought, when we go missing in action, and don’t respond to ourselves, then it’s like we go missing from our true selves, and its up to us to find ourselves again.

Maybe its the Universe telling me to cool it down and relax. There is still more work to be done internally, but I’m still human. I still want to kick back with my girls, whoever they may be.

Sometimes I’m waiting for the Universe to tell me something magical only to tell me to dive deeper. like how much deeper can go. How much deeper do I have to go to see the fruits of my labour? This retrograde has me fucked up. Honestly!…. How about you? how have you been holding up?

Ever since being initiated into Reiki, I lost a lot of people who were no longer on the same vibration level as me. See what reiki does is allows the body to heal itself through light touch administered by a practitioner. If initiated, the practitioner’s spirit fast tracks to the next highest vibrational level. leaving others who are running on a lower vibrational level to fall of. So basically those who do not serve my higher purpose… well, “Boy Bye”. Good for my spirit, it needed a purge. wait1…getting something….. They said, that for all the things that are going to happen for you in and in your life… all of it being major, that we want to make sure that you have the right people in your corner. You know, the ones that genuinely have your back? that really just want to see you win…because when you, we all win.

I have been in my feelings like Drake with Keke, while also acting up like I’m on my worst behaviour or on the verge of it. That’s it I’m definitely in need of some meditation time. Go with the flow, reflect and connect and everything will soon pass. My mantra for the rest of the day. What are ways that you try and connect to other women who are in alignment with the same flow. mind you everyone’s flow is unique but you can still be on the same wave length. Have you had t a change of friends? or realizing that it’s time for change. Are your friends serving your higher purpose and spirit?

And is it lonely at the top? Once again would love to here your thoughts and comments.

 

 

 

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Playing to my strengths

I’ve been feeling recently a pool by my spiritual posse to utilize the gifts that have been the stowed upon me from the moment of conception. Why am talking like a mid century woman is beyond me. I guess it just seems fitting… LOL!. We are all giving gifts that are passed down from our ancestors through our DNA. Now I’m sure you know somebody or perhaps yourself where a specific talent or thing comes easy to them. A natural gift.

Are you deep down believe I have many talents or so I’ve told myself as a child I enjoyed the arts and most of all dance. Both of them are perfect because I didn’t have to speak. I was a super shy kid if you know what I mean.

By high school dance was my every day well at least in my bedroom. Dance was financially out of my reach so I would watch music videos and practice in my room. It was a release at times… like therapy. Now realizing as an adult, dance was my saviour.

Now that I think about it I was always creating art of some kind growing up. My mom still has my watercolour portrait of dopey from the seven doors from grade 7 thanks Mom!

Going down the list… I am a great listener and I have good enough intuition to tell a person all about themselves in emotional and personality level. I am very personable when it comes to interacting with others young and old and my friend just texted me the other day saying I was wise beyond belief

So basically what I’m saying is that whether we realize it or not we are blessed with gifts talents and abilities from day one. I remember someone saying to me, “Rashida it would be a sin for you to never use the gifts God has givenyou.”You know what’s funny those gifts were actually were healed me I am such a private person when it comes to my journey and every journey is personal but it’s healed me to receive many blessings in my life and my families life do what you love which should be you!…. you should love you so do you do what makes you feel good do what comes naturally to you I truly believe love is strength and love conquers all right but love is also gentle and kind and soft and sweet those are the ones that come to my mind when I think of love so love yourself enough to read discover you and to do you and to get to know you so that all of your gifts and strengths can shine through.

Body, Mind & Spirit, growth, life lessons, Relationships

Patience with the process

I am the one that has little to no patience and have had to learn how to become patient thanks to my children. Parents you know what I’m talking about. As a mom life can get put on hold to raise the children and so what I’m trying to do is learn how to balance my personal life and my mommy life into one and make it work as smooth as I possibly can… How am I doing so far you ask?… well it’s really only been like a week but so far so good… LOL!

To be patient with the process is to be consistent as well as persistent. We can’t give up on whatever it is that we are waiting for just because it’s not coming fast enough. We have to be patient with the process and we have to be patient with ourselves. Perhaps it’s not the right time as much as we all want it to be “the right time”.

Now I’ve been doing with a lot of patience practice lately and what I’ve realized is that I need to be a little bit more gentle with myself and the situations that I am in as well as to be gentle with the relationships that I choose to build on.

Not everybody runs at the same pace and so I can’t have expectations on someone else who might not be in the same place as I am…so what I’ve learned is that I’m a little anal retentive…. lol! and rather than putting my expectations on another person, it’s better that I give the situation time and space as well as that other person time and space. When I begin to do that, I begin to practice patience with myself.

What I’ve also realized is that I can’t feel guilty if I choose not to be patient with the situation. I have my own path that I must follow. And as I continue on my path I will begin to make ground and I will begin to pick up the pace and I won’t stop until I get to the end whatever that may be.

Sometimes we tend to stop our own path to help out another and that is OK but we can’t continue to wait for that person to catch up to where we are because that can take a long time. That can also distract us from staying on course with our own path, passion and purpose.

When people get off course they think maybe it’s because it was meant to be, maybe I’m not supposed to do those things, maybe I am just meant to be a stay at home mom… a nurturer…. Darlings!… I’m here to say that you can add anything you want to your. When we get off course it’s just the Universes way of saying re-balance yourself!… and how bad do you want it…. How bad do you want to succeed and how much do you love yourself to put yourself first so that you can succeed. Pay attention when you get off course and have patience with yourself and be gentle enough with yourself that you can gradually move yourself back onto that path, purpose and passion!

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