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In Her Dreams Part 2

I went to bed in hopes that I would get a good night’s sleep which was highly unlikely but a girl can dream. Which is exactly what I did. This time my dream brought back a loved one that I think about almost every day. Our family dog Cacao. I have lost people in my family in the past but it never affected me the way Cacao did. I think it’s because of those who I have lost within my family I either never knew or I was never very close with. My Grandparents died before I was born and My Father left us when I was 16 years old. I only saw one picture of my Dad through a Facebook post right before he died and I couldn’t go to the funeral because it was in England and I couldn’t afford to travel at the time. I also think I wasn’t ready to face all those memories of the way he treated us which was very unkind.
So, when I lost Cacao, it was definitely like losing a family member. Actually, scratch that… when we lost cacao, we lost a family member. It was the hardest thing to deal with. I never knew I could love someone that much until I lost him. I am a very spiritual woman who understands that when a physical person dies, it’s just their physical body who leaves this earth. Their spirit always lives on throughout the Universe and through our hearts. So, they are never truly gone. I would explain this to my kids almost every day when he passed. That doesn’t mean that I didn’t miss every second of him being gone physically from our lives.
He was this male Father figure in my life if that makes any sense. He was 15 when he passed which is like 120 years old in dog years. It was like we lost an elder, our protector and the one that allowed us even just for a second to just live in the moment. Animals have a way of that to you. They are healers from the other side, spirit animals who come to teach us more about ourselves and to show us how much love is truly in this world. Cacao was the epitome of all those things plus more. When he passed, I remember letting the kids take a few days off of school so we could spend time as a family. I had to go to my son’s school to sign some papers and had to tell the secretary. She was very sympathetic as she had also lost her dog in the past as well. She had told me that losing a dog is one of the hardest things and before I left, she told me you know what Dog spelled backward is?… GOD!
I wasn’t thinking that at all at the time but it melted my heart and brought tears to my eyes. God is this vision of beauty and love that lives within all of us. A love that is full and unconditional. A love that is unmistakably true and divine.
As I dreamed that night, I woke up in my childhood home. I was asleep in my old room and woke up to heavy panting in my ear. As I turned around, I could smell the muskiness of a wet dog. It was Cacao and I could see him as clear as day. He came right up to me and jumped on the bed. He looked right at me and gave me kisses with his wet nose. I was hugging him so tight and petting him until I felt like my hand would fall off. He was fit and healthy like a young dog in his prime I told him how we missed him so much and that we think about him every day.
What felt like forever with him began to fade. It was time for him to go. I didn’t want him to leave and begged for just a bit more time with him. As he began to fade away, the strangest thing began to happen. I sat up on the bed and looked at him, he began to morph into me and mirroring my actions. It was like I was having an out of body experience. Tears began to fall from my face and as I looked at what became me, I smiled back at myself. I got spooked and as I stood up from the bed and began to back up to leave the room, the other half of me ran towards me and jumped back into my body. Cacao was gone. As I walked down the hallway, I took a breath and a song was playing faintly in the background. I knew the song but couldn’t quite put my finger on it. I remembered the voice of the artist. It was from Joe.
When I woke up from the dream, I went to take a shower and decided to search on Itunes for the song by the artist but I couldn’t find it. I truly believe that things flow into our lives when it’s supposed to and we should never force it. So, I didn’t get frustrated, I just went about the rest of my morning. I asked my husband to shave the back of my head, you know just clean up the hair because we were going out for the day with the kids and she said ok. We went into the washroom and he turned on his phone to put some music on and of course, the first song that came on was the song that was playing in my dreams. I told him that was the song that was in my dreams. I grabbed his phone to take a look at what it was called… “Faded Pictures” by Case and Joe.
The lyrics go like this…
She was more than woman, a goddess for all it seems
All I ever needed was her right here loving me
For a while, we were cool and the groovin’ love was on
But I still remember how it felt when our love was gone
In a tattered picture book
Was a photograph she took years ago
Secret memories in her mind
How could love be so unkind?
Heartbreak time, my heart is breaking
Faded Picture in a broken glass
Broken Glass
Like a mirror revealing
(I see, I see)
What the woman is feeling
Was it someone from a distant past?
(Way back long ago)
‘Cause it’s breaking my heart
(My heart)
To watch her stare into the glass
As she turned through the pages
The tears rolled down her face
I could see her reminiscing
Why her life had to be this way
Then she stopped and she came to a page where her diary ends
To smell the scent of an old rose
From her lover I suppose
In a tattered picture book
Was a photograph she took years ago
Secret memories in her mind
How could love be so unkind?
Heartbreak time, my heart is breaking
Faded Picture in a broken glass
Broken Glass
Like a mirror revealing
(I see, I see)
What the woman is feeling
Was it someone from a distant past?
(Way back long ago)
‘Cause it’s breaking my heart
(My heart)
To watch her stare into the glass
Just keeps spinning
As she stares into the glass, I’ll be waiting
“Cause she’s lost inside the past.

The hardest thing was that I never got to say goodbye to Cacao when he died. It happened so quickly. I was at the doctor’s with my son and got a phone call from my husband that Cacao was coughing up blood and he had to rush him to the Vet. He told the neighbors to watch the girls and that he would be right back because Cacao wasn’t feeling well. We thought he was going to come back with him but he didn’t. He was gone. All I wanted was to give him one last hug, to comfort him and tell him that everything was going to be ok on the other side. To tell him that we loved him one last time. I finally got to do that last night in my dream.
I came away with an understanding that even though someone leaves this life on earth, there will always be a piece of them that will forever remain a part of you.

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Pregnant over 35

I came home early from our trip because I wasn’t feeling well. I can’t lie, I didn’t want to go anyway. For a woman who loves the summer weather, today was not the day. It might actually never be the day until I give birth. Did I forget to tell you that I’m pregnant? That’s right Pregnant! It’s not the first but it will for sure be the last. The Final Arcana in my mind. Have I told everyone yet….NO!… It is baby number 4… I feel like by the time a woman gets to baby number 3 it’s not as exciting anymore when you tell people. it’s kinda like they’re like…”well you’ve been there done that” So you’re not as special as the women who are having their first. Especially if you’re over the age of 35. I fell like people are like, “We know you can have a baby, you don’t have to prove it to us… Or, “we get it, you have lots of sex. Anyway by the time you get to baby number 4, people start to feel sorry for you like it was an accident or like you’re dying or something. It’s almost as if they feel sorry for you. There’s no congratulations, its more of , “you poor dear. Can you afford this baby. Can anyone afford babies. If I was Halle Barry or Jlo, It wouldn’t be such a big deal , but because I’m living in a 3 bedroom apt. it’s a travesty. It’s like society wants to make you feel bad about your decision, not like it was a choice to have another baby, none of them were. We intentionally tried once, my husband and I and it never worked, it’s when we weren’t trying that It came naturally, all of our children, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

So for right now, I keep it a secret for just myself and a select few who I trust. Which is not many. To be honest , I haven’t received any positive reactions. only my neighbor and the kids and my husband.. but most guys are excited like they scored in the end zone. You know back in the day, I would have been the one to say oh no!…but a life coming into this world is a true blessing no matter what the circumstances are. It  means that God chose for that spirit to enter into your life… and this time it chose me once again to be the vessel. Am I sick as a dog right now?…YES!!! do I want to blink and suddenly be at the end, getting ready to give birth?… YES!!!! but I was chosen so I must grit my teeth and bare down to get through each month.

I don’t share my thoughts  very often because I’m good at reading people’s thoughts.. its a gift I have. What I’ve come to realize is that people are very judgmental, and feel like they have their own opinion on how many  kids a woman should have, so of course it’s no different with me. but they don’t understand the back story to my life and how this pregnancy means something more than just baby number 4.

After having Nyla, who is child number three, I had encountered many people…people meaning Psychics, who told me I would have another baby and it would be a boy. Now right after having Nyla, I was definitely not thinking about having another baby, and I didn’t think about it for over 6 years, until, this year of 2019 when I lost my dog. I was already pregnant at the time but would have had an abortion because of how sick… it was bad… I was losing weight rapidly and was throwing up like my life depended it on it.  Our Cacao, that’s our Chocolate Lab who passed away in March of this year. He was getting old and I was getting very sick from the pregnancy. I couldn’t take care of him and myself. It was clearly evident that I had to make a decision to either keep the baby or let it go. when I made the decision to for through with the abortion and the next day we lost our beloved dog. I don’t think I could have held down the family and myself during such a tragic loss. I had never lost someone so dear to my heart before. It was  a double loss. having to make  a choice  to say goodbye to a spirit in my belly and having to say goodbye to my dog. I almost never forgave myself for that decision. My husband had said to me, “Who would have taken Cacao to heaven”. So there’s a reason for everything. Just like there’s a reason for me having this baby. There’s no such thing as a coincidence in my mind. This baby will be born the same week that our dog passed away. Crazy right?…

I’ll never forget meeting that man in the parking lot after me specifically stopping and asking God to send me an answer. and so he did, in the form of this man who had told me that I would have a son and through this pregnancy, success would come, I would travel and have my own business. something I’ve always dreamed of. I’ve been incredibly emotional with this pregnancy, and feel like I have no control, hence why I’m writing my thoughts out. I asked God what should I do now that I’m on this new journey…. And God said,  “write!!!” So here I am documenting my experience being pregnant with baby number 4 at the age of… 37… soon to be 38 in October.

I had a vivid dream 2 years ago that we had bought our dream house and we were standing in front of it . Marcus, Kaori and Nyla were standing  in the photo… Mike and I was holding a baby.. we had a new dog, a golden Retriever and it was fall. That dream has stuck with me until this day, and now I believe it’s time to fulfill that dream. No matter what age or how many children I have.

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The Not So Summer Blues

I came home this morning from the cleaning the gym. What a mess it was. You wonder how one place can get so dirty…But then you realize it’s a bunch of girls in that gym… Nuff said. Anyways, To my surprise when I got home, my partner hadn’t left yet for work. That was a nice feeling. We’ve been a lot busier lately which means less time together and the time we do spend together is on the couch past out. Parents, I know you feel me.

The kids were still asleep, so I went out on the balcony to catch up on some silence. It’s always nice to catch the silence before all the hustle and bustle begins. So of course as I’m taking in the summer morning, it got me thinking…. Wow, this summer feels like a good summer. Now I’m not really sure what I meant by that at the time but I think I’m getting a handle on it.

Earlier in the month, I was feeling a bit guilty that I wasn’t really doing much with the kids. From our middle one in gymnastics 4 days a week for the whole summer and everyone working, non stop with no days off, it’s been interesting trying to navigate fun into the equation. So far the kids haven’t complained…. So far. Something about this morning made me feel like even though, I’m not taking the kids here and there, we’re still enjoying summer. It was like a sense of ease, which got me thinking even more. Since it was the eclipse and it’s all about letting go.

When I was a kids, all my friends would go on vacation during the summer. So while they were on summer vacation, they were on vacation. I, on the other hand was at home for most of the time being watched my sister or in day camp which I wasn’t very fond of. I also wasn’t fond of staying home for the entire summer. When it was the first day of school and the teacher asks the class to write about what they did for the summer, my paragraph didn’t have much details. I had to look at the difference from then and now… My summers were good but there was always this lingering feeling of worry and fear because you knew that your Dad would come home and perhaps get mad about something or perhaps your parents would start arguing which they often did. So deep down you could never really enjoy summer and let your hair down.

Fast forward to now. That feeling isn’t there. I think it was lingering around, and I never took the time to acknowledge it and release it. So I did that today. I released that feeling of tension and sadness that went along with that feeling of summers past. I sat on that balcony with a feeling of gratitude. I’m  spending my summer in a loving home that I helped create. The days are filled with summer activities and BBQ’s, Morning are filled with birds chirping and the sun rising and I get to enjoy every bit of it with no worry or fear. Deep down that’s the type of summer I always wanted. Maybe it was never really about the vacations, although I still want to do plenty of travelling with the family. It was more about experiencing the peace and leisure of summer in a safe space which makes summer of course more enjoyable as a kid. I’m definitely grateful that my partner and I can provide that for our kids. Releasing what no longer serves me and filling it with my truth and my new reality.

Reminder: Even when you feel like the world is against you, just know that the Universe is for you.

 

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Adulting

I’m on the phone with my coach. It was fate, because earlier in the morning I had a vision that we were having a conversation about my life and what was next for me when it came to my business. I have changed my mind so many times when it comes to starting a business. I have started a clothing business, I became a motivational speaker and a yoga teacher. At one point I started carrying a vegan friendly makeup line…. I’ve done it all.

What I haven’t done is commit to either of them. I have always said to myself that I have nothing of material wealth to give but myself. The question was, “What do you have to offer?”. What a question…Right1… She always gets me to go deeper in my thoughts. Almost gets me choked up like she was sent from another planet to watch over me.

This full moon eclipse that was yesterday is obviously playing a huge role in my life. bringing up all the things that we really don’t want to acknowledge about ourselves. The truth that sometimes can hold us back from our destiny. So, I’ve decided to take a good look in the mirror…

I going to admit that I am definitely a bit of a turtle. Slow at times… Perhaps, I’m being modest. I fluctuate from task to task seeing how much I can fit into my schedule. All feeling like I never get much done.

A successful business depends on your love and passion for it.

And perhaps that successful business depends on the love and passion that I give to myself internally, rather then externally. She said it seems like I depend on external validation more that anything. Which was a hard pill to swallow.

I also think that sometimes we move slow in silence or never commit to the things we care about out of fear. Yup!, I said it! Fear! I have this fear of failure but now that I think about it I’m only failing myself. When fear gets in the way it paralyzes you from doing what your meant to do in life or in that particular situation, no matter what it happens to be.

In my mind, I have always in the background, just waiting to break free, but have been to shy to some out of my shell. However, I’m older now and its true what they say, there’s no time like the present.

To be self employed means that you treat your life like a business. You are the boss and the employee. So it’s all or nothing. it’s time to commit to this relationship whole heartedly . No more excuses for this adult. Just a disclaimer, I have only really felt like an adult about year and half ago. I wanted to say two years but even then I can honestly say that was just the beginning.

I’m 37 but look like I’m 16. I’m 5’1 but that has never stopped anyone my height from becoming successful. Mariah Carey for instance…. Need I say more.

I think figuring out my life has been a hobby until now. I have explored many things that has allowed me to grow into the person I am today. YOLO! should me the key to everyone’s life.

so to catch you up on my adulting experience, I had a one on one coaching session with a very successful entrepreneur. She gave me some amazing tips on making my business visual and viable. I invested in myself in ways that will help not only my business grow but myself as well.

Once I took me seriously, I received an opportunity to sell my merchandise in a mall as a pop up. I created Aries Collection! a baby and toddler clothing store. I create baby and kids accessories and clothes.  Now, I’m not sure how this mall found me but the Universe will always bless you with what is meant for you.

My life isn’t a hobby but a 24/7 career. I have to learn how to navigate being a Mom to three kids, being a partner to the love of my life and being a boss to my business. Adulting at its finest.

I know I’m not the only one who still wants wake up late, hit patios all summer and eat all day and stay up until the wee hours drinking with their friends.

 

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When Doors Begin to Open

My spirit guides always tell me to write… So here it goes. Ever since I could remember I either wanted to dance or own my own business. I’m the type of person that can’t stick to one project and when the urge hits to try something new…. I’m the first one to the line. Now granted they all haven’t been very successful, I think it’s because I never dedicated myself to one thing…Boredom always catches up with me. Like right now…I’m ready to close the laptop and go rest but It’s clear that getting things off your chest is very valuable to one’s well being. Like a release.

Procrastination and fear of judgement always lingers. Well I procrastinate because of the fear… but that will just take me on a whole other thought so lets stick to this one for now, cause it seems like I’m on a role now with my words as I type away on the key board in peace. Kids are occupied.

As a libra, I dabbled in anything that peaked my interest and brought me joy. What of course didn’t bring me joy but brought me a consistent pay check was the jobs that I either quit or got fired from.

Sorry I lost my train if though due to a child interruption. She needed a snack. What was I saying again?… Oh right! Experimenting with different projects. Although some saw it as just as hobby, I saw it as a learning process. A chance to grow through experience on a very personal level. I can’t lie, I’ve done some serious work on my internal makeup that only now am I starting to see the magic happen on the physical level…. And I’m loving every minute of it. I can’t lie, It makes me feel a bit nervous, like your shedding the old vulnerable you and emerging into a real adult. Hahahahaha! Someone who owns their choices and walks in faith that they as well as their family will always be take care of.

Anyway… back to the story, I told you I can lose my train of thought. I started Aries Collection in 2010 as just an idea. Aries was named after my son’s middle name, and it would a collection of items that were cute and put a smile on my face. It was after I had my son who will soon be 13. Back then, even though it wasn’t that long ago, there were very few selection in terms of boys clothes out on the market. The girls clothes was saturated with a cute variety, and I wanted to change that. I would draw at night on pieces of paper but eventually nothing came of it, circumstances arose and I’m sure I got distracted. I left the concept alone and went on with being a Mom to my son and soon to be second child. A girl who is now 9 and 3 years after that, another girl who is now 6.

It was when I had my third that I returned back to Aries Collection. People thought my daughter was a boy so I decided to make headbands for her and people stared to really take a liking for them. I began creating and selling and the Moms just ate it up. I mean, who could blame them, right? I began to create a small following and it finally felt good to do what I love to do which was to create. Eventually the finances became a little stressful and the business had to be put on hold… The numerous websites and creative work all had to be put on a hold, I think to find out whether or I was ready. I truly believe that the Universe gives you what you need when you’re spiritually ready. That means cleaning out all the cob webs of the past and recreating new thoughts and patterns for the future. You know the adulting stuff… Bringing all my hopes dreams and imagination of my childhood to the forefront of my reality.

Am I rambling yet or am I staying on track?…. Years later, I’m still healing and becoming more clear about my intentions and what I really want for the future of myself and my family. After Losing my beloved chocolate lab of 14 years as well as having a miscarriage all in the beginning of the 2019. I know right?… I realized that it was important for me to get my physical level in order. Mentally, spiritually and emotionally was really coming together but the Universe was asking for me to join the party and to physically raise my energy. I started to get real with myself by making a schedule for myself and committed to the growth of my business. I started stepping out of my comfort zone by participating in different events and markets. Way out of my comfort zone but well worth it. I remember this little voice in my head that said if you only make a little money from your sales, just know that you’ll get a lot more out of it then you might think…. And I did.

Weeks before I had asked the Universe to open the doors for to meet like minded people who would believe in my business and who would support me just on the basis of merit. I couldn’t pay them anything but they wanted to be a part of the journey. Well like I said, the Universe gives what you need when you’re ready. A young woman who was there to support her friend had come to my table… we had got talking and connected right away. Always remember like attracts like. and our good vibes did just that. She was really impressed with the shop and wanted to offer her expertise to help grow my social media platform. It was exactly what I was asking for. I’m not very tech savvy and to be honest have no patience for any of that, not like I used to. I also realized that a growing team in your corner is very valuable.

We were finally able to meet up for a quick meeting so I could drop off some products for her to play around with and revamp my social media presence. With the little time we had, I learned a lot. I learned that there needs to be a clear and concise flow to what you want to put out to your customers. All the things that I knew I  wanted to do but didn’t know how to start it.

So what have I’ve learned here?…. Never give up on your dreams. You can put it on the shelf if you want to if life gets too busy but never forget it….Because it’s waiting for you and will always be waiting for you to finish what you’ve started.

Be clear on what you want. You’re not just getting clear with yourself but with the Universe.

And most importantly…Have faith. Have faith that you will attract the right people and situations to help you achieve the success you desire and deserve.

I hope you can continue to follow my journey through this experience and learn with me as I grow.

xoxox

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You owe it to your spirit

I finally got the courage to go to the gym. Now don’t get me wrong… the courage was always there, I just had to find it again. I don’t know what it is about public gyms that I don’t like. I think for me it’s a vulnerable state for me. This feeling as though others are watching you cause most of the time they are. I also look very young, which is a blessing and a curse at the same time but we’ll leave that for another day. A big one for me is not knowing how to use the machines.Anyway, back to my original thought. Lol!

I went back and forth with myself and finally went . It was alright, I felt like I really put a lot into myself today which felt really good. I of course knew I had to eat something because it was lunch time and I especially wanted to make sure it was healthy. I also took it one step further and got some veggie powder to put in my water. This time I’m caring for my health in all categories and this was the piece to the puzzle. So I LOVE sweets. especially pastries. So as I’m about to take a sip of this veggie powder water which was interesting by the way, I made a complaint to myself about getting healthy and My spirit said,

because you owe it me. This journey that your on has been a joint effort internal work is a lot of work and is never ending but my spirit and I have come a long way on this journey and it’s time to show appreciation to my entire temple.

The Body has to house that strong spirit you’ve become. No matter what you look like or how you think you might feel. You owe it. Like a thank you for all the growth and wisdom that I’ve learned along the years. Thank you for being there even when I wasn’t at my best and thank you for motivating me to do what I was meant to do on this earth.

Everyday will be different, that’s why its so important that you listen to your body to understand what it is asking of you. No pressure, just paying attention to the subtle ques. Every now and then, try and, to push yourself outside of your comfort zone. Challenge yourself. Your are limitless!

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Finding the Rhythm

It’s Only been a week, yes since I’ve begun to find a rhythm. It has been a Mercury  Retrograde and it finally ended today. Now It’s time for reflection. It’s been really nice to finally get into the swing of things. So many of us are stuck in those habits that make us feel comfortable, but this Mercury retrograde is almost forcing us to break bad habits. To finally recognize those things that were holding us back and do what is right for our spirit. It’s about finding the rhythm and the balance.

As a parent with three kids. All who have different activities and lets not forget different personalities, I have to maintain a balance that allows me to stay unbothered as much as possible. I mean really, being a Mom is full of schedules and activities and it’s never ending, but the old me was to concerned with the overwhelming feeling of being able to take on all those tasks without burning myself out. Now I’ve to see that it’s the little self care moments that if you take it on at your own pace, you’ll find it will begin to help you in other areas of your life.

There’s a lo of us out there that believe that if we are constant grind  will get us to all our final destination or wish. The truth is… It’s about constantly feeding ourselves with the feel goods. From drinking water everyday as well as getting the proper amount of rest. However we also tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves by setting these outlandish goals  and when we don’t complete our desired goal that we set for ourselves, we immediately put ourselves down, give up and repeat the steps on a later date. You have to believe in your truth at that moment. Believe that you have the capabilities to reach that desired goal but at your own pace. Everyday will be different, which in my opinion is a good thing. Your body will tell you what it needs, just as long as you’re listening to your higher self to find out what feels good to your spirit.