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Nurturing the success of your children as well as yourself

Now I’m no expert in parenting but going to an event that I was already hesitant to go to but for some reason decided to stop in got me thinking really hard… I mean some real food for thought.

The event was in honour of people of colour for Black history month a friend of mine had invited me and so I thought I don’t think I’ve ever really honoured my blackness in public with other people of colour so why not go. The speaker was someone very influential. So I guess I wanted to hear how this woman got to where she was today all while being a mother. When the question was finally raised about motherhood and how she had navigated through all of her rise to success all while being a single mom her response was this, “it was all a blur” which would explain a lot.

You see I don’t know this speaker personally but I do know of her daughter and I know that in someways her Mother’s success affected her In many ways then one and that’s what got me thinking…. even though she is very successful in her career the parenting piece was all a blur. What I’m saying is I don’t want my parenting and my time with my kids to be a blur because I was so driven towards my own success. We can find success in so many different things we can find success in the big things as well as the little things and sometimes the success that we do find is really those happy times and those connected moments with the ones we love.

Even as women of colour there is always this hardness behind us that’s more along the lines of ‘suck it up butter cup’, as oppose to the gentle nurturer. I can attest by my own mother and how she navigated through her career and being a Mom. Now that I’m a Mom, I can understand where they were coming from. They were single Moms who were really living in survival mode for themselves and most importantly for their children and so they did what ever they had to, to get to that next level, even if it meant that the kids wouldn’t get the gentle Motherly type.

So the question is how can we as parents nurture our success and our children’s success at the same time?….

These are some of the tools I’ve learned and continue to apply to my life and my family life.

1) in order to nurture the success of your children you first have to find out what they love… as a Mom I have always paid attention to the interest of my kids. My son loves science and nature and so we try and find activities that foster his interests.

My middle one loves gymnastics and is a natural and my little loves music and so I’m slowly moving her in that direction because that’s what she loves. Now of course as a parent I had different plans but when the Universe shows you the joy that comes out of it when they do what they love that my friends is success.

2) prioritize your time as a Mom and as a career driven woman. Sometimes we feel we can only do one but not both. When you’re running your business and trying to get it off the ground, the down time is very limited but that doesn’t mean that you can’t set aside down time for the people you love. Create a schedule that works and remember to add in DOWN TIME!

3) Be self aware… as parents we have a tendency of not being aware of the effects we have on our kids. We can be so focused in the success and the end result that we can sometimes have blinders on forgetting our kids needs which could just be them wanting Mommy time. Make sure we’re spreading the knowledge of where happiness really comes from. Not from the late nights at the office, but from those special moments we have with the people we love.

Messages from the Heart

Just a moment to myself

Since Summer had started it’s been pretty difficult to get any work done. My secret so far to keeping my self sane is waking up earlier than the kids. Them sleeping I’m has been a lifesaver. Now mind you, sleeping in for them is 9 in the morning. Yes I’m up at 7am but I get a lot of stuff done. Like… Meditation for about 15 to 20 minutes and I checked my email and then I get any work done that needs to get done that can’t get done when children are up…lol!

I can’t lie it’s been really difficult not having down time for a longer than an hour and a half. I as well as many parents are clearly spoiled for most of the year when the kids are in school. So it is a big adjustment to keep them entertained for two months straight day in and day out. Even tougher when there’s not enough family to help look after three kids when you want to break. Since we know families can get into their own little bubble when it comes to life, it is totally up to me to keep my family moving and me with a calm interior. Not sure how long I will last, it really has only been a week….lol! But so far so good.

I’m not sure where I’m going with this but what I do know is that since officially starting my wellness business…I have been non stop and the momentum is on the rise.

Check out righteoussun.co to take a look around.

Rather than going against the flow of kids and summer vacation, I’ve chosen to work the Universe to accommodate my new lifestyle. It’s like my spiritual posse is asking me how bad do you want this… my answer is…. no summer vacay is going to slow me down. I’m currently writing this piece in the bathroom where the kids now understand after many years that I as well as all Moms require privacy while in the bathroom… AGREE!

I guess making time is what you make of it…. I’m finding my flow… it’s the same flow I had when my first born was a toddler…. only this time he’s 11yrs old… I added two more to the mix and I am all the wiser as Mom of three.

Affirmation: I flow easily and swiftly through the Universe.

Messages from the Heart

It was just yesterday that I was moving into my neighborhood and scrambling to find a school for My son to go to. He’s now 11 years old. I remember walking into the doors with all the forms, I went straight to the office and handed them in. When it was all said and done, they had told me the room number where my son would be learning. I went straight to Room 109 and glared at the picture that was stuck to the door. It was of a blond woman with a grin from ear to ear…. I had my suspicions of course… I’m a Mom! When the day finally came for me to drop him off to the care of another person… A complete stranger. It was one of the hardest things I could have ever done. Little did I know that I would spend the next 9 years with this particular class. Room 109. I have three kids in total and each one from my oldest son to my youngest daughter have all passed through this class room…. And yesterday was the last day I would be dropping off one of my kids for the first day of kindergarten and chatting with that same teacher in the picture. Oh! BTW, The teacher and I have built a great friendship in and out of the school, that will last a lifetime.

My not so little girl and last child graduated from Senior kindergarten.

I tried to hold it together at the graduation. Seeing the last of my kids all grown up and knowing that there won’t be one to follow. Factory is shut down for maintenance…. Self -maintenance. They’re getting older now and even though my womb will call out every so often for a child to bare. I feel deep down that Its time for to graduate as well. Graduate to ‘Parents of big kids. My oldest is about to go into grade seven. I stayed home and devoted myself to them to make sure that those first few years were the best….and I have to admit that every time one got to a certain age where they don’t need mommy anymore, I would get the baby feeling and out would pop another one. On third one, I said enough is enough. I knew deep down that she was my last. I knew deep down that feeling of changing diapers and breastfeeding was long gone for me. So today was bitter sweet…. As all three of my kids move on to the next milestone in their lives. So will I.

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I want to give her the world

Gymnastics provincials were on Friday, June 1, 2018. I was so nervous for my little girl and hopes and prayed for her to get on my podium. This time we were competing with 40 kids in one group instead of the regular 8. She placed 16th in Ontario All around. Now as a mom I couldn’t be more proud than I already am of my little mamasita but as a parent especially a mom you always and I mean always want the best for your kids.

All year she did amazing placing in the top three on the podium. Provincials was a whole other ball game and as a parent you want the best for your kids all the time. I can’t lie it totally broke my heart to know that she didn’t place for a medal I knew how much she wanted it. All I wanted her to know was that she was loved very much. How come when our kids go through something that didn’t quite work out the way it was supposed to, as parents we just want to hug it all away? I knew it bothered her that she didn’t get a medal because she loves to win… lol, but who doesn’t. She was fine in the grand scheme of things. To justify… it was her first championship competition.

For the last couple of days I have questioned as a parent what could I have done differently to support my child in her endeavours …. This is how the conversation went down….

Me: I want to give her the sun moon and stars the cosmos and galaxies far beyond,

Universe: The best thing you can give is them knowing even through the ups and downs the love for her will be remain the same the spirit is Omni present and forever means the same it’s the being that becomes in life no matter the lead down for the heartbreak long as we know that we are loved our love then our spirit will forever be intact.

Food and nutrition

Going Healthy!

So the other day my partner in crime called to let me know that he’d be coming home early, and wanted to know what was for dinner….. EEK!!!! So of course I said chicken and rice… ‘with?’  He asks…. and of course I say the easiest thing to prepare… ‘Salad’. FYI, it was 5pm and My daughter had to be at gymnastics for 5:30 and there was nothing in the oven… I still had to make snack and find her gymnastic suit that gets lost every week. Chicken is a staple in almost every household and there 350 ways to cook chicken… But in my household… it’s getting tired and Everyone including the kids want a change from the everyday…

You said it… it is not easy.. especially when you have some picky eaters on your hands.. when cooking healthy, there is a lot of prep and you never know if the family is going to like it. My goal when making meals with new ingredients that you know the kids won’t try…. camouflage!… 

The more I camouflage the better…. I took a risk and picked a recipe right off Pinterest… Meatless lasagna! This lasagna is truly the Bomb!!!… what’s great about it is, that it has some major super foods as ingredients… SPINACH and LENTILS!!

SPINACH

“The original superfood, this leafy green can stave off fatigue and reduce fine lines and wrinkles. Plus, research shows its nitrates can help you power through a workout. It’s also one of the best vegetables for folate and vitamins A, E and K.”

LENTILS

A great vegetarian protein option, this legume has nearly double the fibre of an apple and 25 percent more folate than one cup of cooked spinach. Virtually fat-free, super-filling lentils also help encourage weight loss and build healthy bones.”

Excerpts From: The Chatelaine Kitchen. “Chatelaine’s Superfood Cookbook.” Rogers Publishing Limited. iBooks

Check out this book on the iBooks Store: https://itun.es/ca/K3czH.l

I absolutely love this book… it has everything you need to know about the foods that make you feel good. When I found out exactly what I was putting in my body and what nutrients each veggie contained… it all started to make sense…


The ingredients were simple and came to under $20 because I had the rest of the Ingredients at home….

Everything in a pot!..


End result….


YUMMMMY!…And the leftovers the next day was just as good….

MANTRA: I will feed and nourish my spirit with healthy food.

The recipe was courtesy of Half Baked Harvest on Pinterest.
Simple Vegetarian Skillet Lasagna.


 prep time 10 minutes

 cook time 25 minutes

 total time 35 minutes

 servings serves 6

Ingredients


2 tablespoons olive oil

1 zucchini chopped

8 ounces button mushrooms finely chopped

1 red pepper seeded + chopped

2 cloves garlic minced or grated

1 jar roasted garlic or tomato basil pasta sauce

1 cup milk

pinch of crushed red pepper flakes

1/2 cup oil packed sun-dried tomatoes oil drained

1/2 cup rinsed green lentils

6 ounces no boil lasagna noodles

2 cups fresh spinach

1 cup fresh basil

8 ounces mozzarella sliced

4 ounces provolone shredded

1/3 cup grated parmesan plus more for topping

pesto, for serving (optional)

Instructions


Preheat the oven to 375 degrees F.

Heat a large, high-side skillet or dutch oven over medium heat. Add a drizzle of olive oil. Once hot, add the zucchini, mushroom and red pepper. Season with salt + pepper. Cook 3 minutes or until just lightly caramelized. Add the garlic and cook another minute. Stir in the tomato pasta sauce, milk and a pinch of crushed red pepper flakes. Stir in the sun-dried tomatoes, lentils + 1/4 cup water. Break each lasagna noodle into 2-3 pieces and stir them into the sauce, making sure most of them are submerged. Cook until the noodles are al dente and the lentils are soft, about 15 minutes. If the sauce seems like it is getting too thick, add water to thin.

Stir in the spinach + basil until they have wilted down into the sauce. Remove from the heat and add the mozzarella, provolone and parmesan.

Place the skillet on a large baking sheet. Place in the oven and bake for 10 minutes or until the cheese has melted and is bubbly. Remove and let sit 5 minutes. Serve with basil pesto and fresh parmesan. Enjoy!