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Fashion is My Alter Ego

It’s all coming back to me now. That passion to create any outfit depending on my mood. That feeling of expressing yourself without saying a word. I remember my Mom having her motto when it came to shopping for me. “If its ugly then Rashida will love it.” She was right! Although I never though of it as ugly, I just thought of it as different . I’m 5’0, so I always wanted to stand out and given the fact that I grew up in a household that was very scary, I was definitely not stepping out of line. So fashion became my thing. Bright colours and PATTERNS were and still are my thing. I think patterns can really express the inner psyche of a person. Remember our spirits are an array of colours that represent the rainbow, and tell me one person who doesn’t love a rainbow. Tell me!

Even on my bad day an outfit can be the thing that gets me out of my funk. It’s a visual thing for me. If you visually see yourself in the best of light, looking finessed like you have somewhere to go then eventually your mind will switch up! now that doesn’t mean that you always have to dress up , but why not? Like I’ve said before

Adorn Your Temple

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When I put on a fierce outfit, it makes me feel like I’m already in the life that I want. You know that feeling… almost like you’re putting on your superhero cape. When the outfit goes on and every accessory is just right…That’s when the super powers kick in. Super powers of a great outfit?…

Intense confidence, boldness, and most importantly a carefree attitude. I take everyone by storm with my wild  exuberance and efficiency of a BOSS! I have a drive that is focused and unstoppable. All while looking FABULOUS! Even better when the items are on sale…Lol!

So remember that sometimes it’s the visual that gives us the jump start to what we want. It’s our imagination that helps us to believe in the impossible, which was always possible in my opinion. Embrace and inhabit your own style that excites and brightens your spirit. If it feels good to you and feels comfortable on then Rock it!

Affirmation: My style is my superpower 

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Body, Mind & Spirit, Uncategorized

It’s A Commitment

Make a commitment.

To yourself

To the process

To the ups and the downs

A commitment to growth

And transformation

LIBERATION!!!

Righteous Sun

I had a conversation with a friend the other day and we got on to the topic of commitment. What does it mean to truly be committed? And is putting a ring on it actually mean that the man is committed to you?

Let’s get into it…. Some women feel that if their significant other puts a ring on it, it means that they are taking the next step to commitment. However, some men feel that if I have kids with you and living with you then I’m committed and you don’t need a ring.

What are your thoughts?

I said commitment means more to me than just a ring on my finger. If you’re that type of person that is into the symbolism of a ring, then putting a ring on it  means that you’re committing to every piece of that person. The good and the stuff we’re still working through…. Now I’m committed to learning about myself and how I interact with my partner. I’m committed to being patient as he grows and transforms as an individual and as a partner. (Because you have to do both in order for any relationship to last.) We have to be committed to change in and outside ourselves because as we know, no one and nothing  stays the same.

Now just because you get a ring, that doesn’t mean the person is fully committed. How do you know if someone is committed?… Real Simple…

They are committed to themselves first and foremost. Now you’re probably thinking, wait! committed to just themselves?… Isn’t that a little selfish?… It’s not when that person is committing to being the best they can be for themselves and for the person they are involved with. That means growing in every possible way for the greater good.

To make a commitment means that you place value on the person you and who you are becoming. To take it one step further, once you realize that there is no separation between who you are and who you are becoming… Well then…. You are on your way, if not already there. Remember we are universal. We are past, present and Future all in one.

So what now?…. We begin by taking  baby steps towards a commitment to yourself and to the whole process. I love using my screensavers on my laptop and phone for inspirational quotes and affirmations. You use your electronics all the time, so you might as well benefit from them in a way that can remind your spirit who they are and why they’re here.

Another tip that can help in the process is to commit to one day a month of pampering yourself. Just for you. I know it’s getting cold outside if you live in the colder climates, so drop the kids off for a play date and spend the day at home… not cleaning but pampering yourself. I love nice hot baths with essential calming oils that will soothe. Light some candles and VOILA! oh yes!… We can’t forget that favourite bottle of wine. Making a commitment to yourself means that you have to be consistent. So never say that you don’t have time for you… You should always have time for you! The Universe made a commitment to you the day you were born and that my friends is a commitment that will last a lifetime!

Affirmation: I AM COMMITTED TO MYSELF AND THE PROCESS AS A WHOLE.

Body, Mind & Spirit

Fighting for my Inner child

I’m fighting for my inner child who never said a word

I’m writing for the inner child whose words might have gone unheard

For the inner child whose vision of what love really is, was blurred

I will Love You

I will protect You

I will honour You

And will be there for all your breakthroughs.

Righteous Sun

Sometimes, we forget that our inner child is still with us and has never really left. It’s just that we grow up. We grow up and think that what’s in the past is in the past. That we should be over anything that happened to us as a child. Sometimes the memories as a child could have been so rough, that we even force ourselves to forget but have vague memories of all the good that occurred in our lives as kids if any.

What we need to do is call out to that inner child that still comes around when we are reminded of the unpleasantry of our past. When we really haven’t healed those things from our childhood but have found ways to cope.

I’ve learned that even though some parts of my childhood sucked, there were positive things that I’ve taken with me. Things that have always been there and sum up who I AM and who I’m meant to be. I remember someone saying to me, “Invite your inner child to come along for the ride.” See, your inner child might be scared at first but it’s ok, just take them by the hand and reassure them that they are safe. I mean, you can’t have one without the other. You need your inner child for play…. And you have to admit it’s just as fun being an adult as it is being a kid, if you play you cards right!

So in those moments when the adult in you is wanting to take that chance or make that move but is ultimately frozen in fear, just tell your inner child that everything will be ok and that you can’t do it without them.

Inner Child is imagination. It is Resiliency. The ability to look at things with wonder and awww. Most of all it is the ability to grow and transform.

Today’s Affirmation is: I am gentle to my inner child as we uncover and release the old for the new.

Messages from the Heart

July 17th, 2018.

So I’m in the middle of a serious clean. My apartment and mind was a little in disarray. I’m the type of person who cleans in sections… to much for any person can be overwhelming. And I always attribute a cluttered space with a cluttered mind. Im not sure how it works but it works. I think it’s a visual thing and a definite energy thing as well. I am still process as we speak in making a lot more room in my head. I’m just taking a break.

Something happened yesterday that got me thinking. During my serious clean, my little one comes to me and says someone’s at the door. I was in such a zone that I wasn’t really down for any interruptions. I left my mind for a sec and went to see who it was. I’m in a little shock to see my neighbours daughter standing at my door looking tired and frail. She looked like she hadn’t eaten for days if not longer. and she’s only 19yrs old. She had come to ask me if I could clear some crystals that our neighbours had given her for healing. Crystals are amazing for that. I cleared them and she began talking. She’s going to bars with friends and drinking until she passes out. Sigh!…… I cleared her energy the best I could and left her with this because lord knows I love to help the broken spirits….

I said,

Only you can break the cycle that has been passed down to you through energy and DNA. No matter the cards you’ve been felt as a child, good or bad, you have to know deep down that if you had children, you would want the best for them. You would want them to have better life than you did… I’ve been there, we’ve all been there. I’m now in the position of breaking the cycle in my family by owning my own business….And that was me saying, “I want different for myself and for my kids”.

I left it like that and prayed that she left with something. When you think about it, it really is an internal battle. The spirit finding ways to cope with the spiritual scars of life…. even though the spirit is sensitive, its also very resilient. It’s when we put in the extra love that the spirit begins to wake up and remember… we were just to far removed and hurt to see. It all comes down to you.

As a reiki healer and an intuitive spiritual Counsellor, I would love to help others fall back in love with themselves. I am open to receiving new clients and new opportunities that allow me to express my gifts talents and abilities and share them with those who are interested. As I continue to grow in my practice so will the abundance in my life. I am grateful for the here and now and what is to come.

Just a little affirmation out into the Universe.

Messages from the Heart

Just a moment to myself

Since Summer had started it’s been pretty difficult to get any work done. My secret so far to keeping my self sane is waking up earlier than the kids. Them sleeping I’m has been a lifesaver. Now mind you, sleeping in for them is 9 in the morning. Yes I’m up at 7am but I get a lot of stuff done. Like… Meditation for about 15 to 20 minutes and I checked my email and then I get any work done that needs to get done that can’t get done when children are up…lol!

I can’t lie it’s been really difficult not having down time for a longer than an hour and a half. I as well as many parents are clearly spoiled for most of the year when the kids are in school. So it is a big adjustment to keep them entertained for two months straight day in and day out. Even tougher when there’s not enough family to help look after three kids when you want to break. Since we know families can get into their own little bubble when it comes to life, it is totally up to me to keep my family moving and me with a calm interior. Not sure how long I will last, it really has only been a week….lol! But so far so good.

I’m not sure where I’m going with this but what I do know is that since officially starting my wellness business…I have been non stop and the momentum is on the rise.

Check out righteoussun.co to take a look around.

Rather than going against the flow of kids and summer vacation, I’ve chosen to work the Universe to accommodate my new lifestyle. It’s like my spiritual posse is asking me how bad do you want this… my answer is…. no summer vacay is going to slow me down. I’m currently writing this piece in the bathroom where the kids now understand after many years that I as well as all Moms require privacy while in the bathroom… AGREE!

I guess making time is what you make of it…. I’m finding my flow… it’s the same flow I had when my first born was a toddler…. only this time he’s 11yrs old… I added two more to the mix and I am all the wiser as Mom of three.

Affirmation: I flow easily and swiftly through the Universe.

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Healing Takes Time

My Father past away earlier this month. I’ve never lost anyone in my life. Not one person. I have always been the one to console others in those moments of loss. As years went on I had always thought to myself, what would that day feel like. What kind of emotions would surface.

You know that feeling when someone just pops into your head for know reason? They say that’s spirit trying to tell you something important about that person. Fast forward six months later is when I found out that he was still alive. A relative from Guyana who connected with me through Facebook sends me a message asking me if I an Robert Wall’s Daughter. ‘Yes, and who is this I send back. ‘I am your sister’. “WTF!!!” and it didn’t stop there. He had fathered up to 17 kids from what we know. Skipping out on every one except for us. He stayed for 21 years. I was 15 at the time, and I started to think that if something didn’t happen soon, we would all live a miserable life. We were to afraid to get rid of him. How were you going to get this giant out of this house. It was an unspoken bond that we as siblings would never move out of the house while our Mother was still with him. We would not have been able to protect, even though deep down we all knew that once we reached of age, we would no longer had to live under their roof, We couldn’t just leave her there. I was at a women’s retreat in the city and one of the questions that we had to answer was, ‘ what was the most memorable in your childhood?… My answer was,…’ It was when I call the police on my father. I am not proud of that, That’s not a memory that you want sticking out in your mind. but it was the day that the shackles came off! No more sneaking around behind his back, no more feeling scared and anxious every time we’d walked into the house or when he walked in for that matter. I had prayed and wished for a reason to get rid of him, long before that. I believed he had the potential to kill my Mother. When you see family members, supposed loved ones hurting another human being… You’re own flesh and blood, the woman you said I do too. If you’re capable of doing such mean acts , then whose to say you wont take it to the next level. I prayed with conviction, please God, give me one reason…
Please, I can no longer live like this… they got into an argument that night, it was normal in our house , but it had been a while. it began to escalate, but this time we siblings were a lot older now… The opportunity came, and I didn’t think twice… it had to happen.

He was escorted out of the house in Markham in handcuffs that night. God had answered my prayers. The nightmare was over. We could all finally breathe a sigh of relief. I can only speak for myself when I say he was mean, mean man. He was possessive and violent. he was never faithful or truthful. I really knew nothing about him on a personal family level, because he never talked about them, or maybe I was just to scared to ask.

Nonetheless, He’s gone now. I still have yet to process this. I’m not sure what I’m mourning, his passing or all the grief he caused… I’m not sure. But a friend told me that it’s ok if you don’t feel the way others do about his passing. Your experience with him was different, and if you feel guilty that you’re not mourning in the ways that are expected when someone passes…DON’T!!!! You have a right to your feelings.. PERIOD! And if it takes a while for me to release those feeling of anger and hurt, then that’s ok too. There’s no timeline for forgiveness. I really felt like if I forgave him for everything, right ASAP that I could move on. But the reality is, forgiveness takes time.
It’s going to take some time… BUT!… Who FUCKING CARES!… who cares how long it takes…It’s you’re life and you’re living it. Take all the time you need, that the only way the process can take place smoothly. there will be tears (There already has been)… there will be hurt and anger, but the reality is…Its all ok….

AFFIRMATION: I AM SAFE TO SPEAK THE TRUTH