I had an interesting Conversation the other day with some friends. The topic was how to parent our children from a balanced perspective. Well, that wasn’t exactly the title of our discussion. It was more like ‘How do we parent like ourselves and less like our parents. Now don’t get me wrong, even though our parents were more strict with us then we are with our own children, we have to admit, we all turned out ok. At least most of us can say that.
The reality of it is, is that its 2015. There is a lot more books and research being done to explain children’s behaviour. What we need to do as parents is step back and look at the bigger picture with more clarity. We were once KIDS!!!. In our day, the motto was ‘Kids should be seen and not heard. I don’t know about you, but even as a kid, I had a lot on my mind and a lot I wanted to say.
Something I hold dear to my heart and I always make it a point to remember and express to my kids, is that everything is connected. Our developmental skill and concepts are related to each chakra. Quickly for those who don’t know what a chakra is, it literally means ‘wheel’ or ‘disk’ and refers to a spinning sphere of bioenergetics activity emanating from the major nerve ganglia branching forward from the spinal column. Did you get that? Chakras are not like feelings or ideas, they cannot be seen or held, and yet they have a strong effect on the physical body. Chakras express the embodiment of spiritual energy on the physical plane and are programmed deep in the core of the mind and body.
Even though we function through all our chakras most of the time, there are specific developmental stages in which the various chakras are learned and incorporated into our personality. Our chakra system typically evolves from bottom to top. However, it is important to remember that it is usually necessary for the next chakra stage to begin, in order for the one below it to complete. In this series, we will follow each chakra from bottom to top learning the function of each chakra and how it effect and connects to the developmental stages of our lives.
Chakra One- The right to be here.
Mid-Pregnancy-12months after birth peaking @ 4-5months
This first chakra relates to the development and formation of the physical body and occurs during prenatal development and infancy. Body growth is most rapid at this stage and therefore the main focus on the life force. In this developmental stage, the infants task is to learn how to operate the body. eg. how to suck, eat, digest, grasp, sit, crawl, stand, walk. Well you get the picture. Overall, the infants main task is to deal with the physical world and the challenging force of gravity. These tasks can be incredibly demanding and occupy a huge part of consciousness through out the first year.
With stage one, Consciousness is focused internally with little to no awareness of the outside world. The body will live in unison with the Mother, not yet realizing a separate sense of self. Even when the child begins to move under their own steam, minimal independence is still impossible. Awareness in this stage focuses mostly on survival and physical comfort. Once a child discovers and masters the motor functions, they will begin their first steps towards independence.
According to Erik Erikson who’s felid of study was developmental psychology, he defines the struggle at this age as one of Trust vs. Mistrust. With chakra one, we build the foundation of security and safety that enables self-preservation and forms our physical identity. When all of the needs of the first chakra is met properly, it will anchor the spirit into the physical body, leaving a child feeling welcomed in the world.